See James 4:8; born from above. John 3:3 is seeing the Kingdom.
The spirit of man is made alive when God removes our Adamic sin. Everything that separated us from God has been removed, and our spirit is now in direct communication with God, (Isa. 59:1; Eph. 2:1; 1 Cor. 6:17).
Being sanctified by the Spirit and through the Word of God, (John 3:5) is to enter and become a partaker of the Kingdom of God.
The faculties of the soul (will, mind, emotion = personality) are healed or sanctified by identifying with the message of the cross of Christ, (1 Cor. 1: 18).
The Inner Healing Model
1. Pray for God’s grace to face and acknowledge the hurts and the circumstances that caused it, (Eph. 5:11-13). These identities must be separated in ministry.
The pattern of rejection leads to rebellion and results in double mindedness.
2. Forgive those who caused your rejection and shame: (Parents, Family, Teachers, Authorities, Believers etc). Put the blame where it belongs.
3. Repent for reacting and solving your problem in your own way instead of coming to the Lord for your healing, (Jer. 8:22; Ex. 15:26; 1 Pet. 2:24). In case of self-rejection, self-hatred, self-destruction accept the Lord’s forgiveness in your life.
4. Identify your Christian walk with the cross of Christ,(Luke 9:23; 14:27). No more hiding, withdrawing, blaming, running and escaping. Facing the problem,(Ps. 55) and do not take offence, (Ps. 119:165).
5. See Christ as the Wounded Healer, invite His presence into your traumatic experiences; He was wounded, rejected and shamed to make you whole (Hebr. 4:15), and accept His provision for you in surrendering to Him.
6. Renounce every power that identified you with the cause(s) of your hurts and torments, (James 4:7).
7. Thank the Lord for healing you and setting you free. Now continue in His grace with praise, thankfulness and patience with joy.
* Rebellion constitutes defensiveness in total self-effort, selfish ambition, entitlement with no trust in God living in fear, resorting to control, manipulation constantly escaping, ending up in lust and isolation.